i’ve been asking this question a lot lately.
how did we get here?
time span: 50 years
1968 to 2018.
does it matter how (the collective) we got here?
it probably doesn’t because i’m actually asking a slightly different question.
how the fuck did this happen?
we’re well into the second decade of the 21st century and it’s not pretty.
in fact, we blew by some important shit and let it get obliterated in front of our faces.
lilly ledbetter act? yes.
fair and equal pay for equal work? no.
speak up? yes
results? not. good.
but it’s been almost a decade since that supreme court decision and it’s not working. i am proof.
a story for another day.
If you’re old enough, you probably remember the first Bush administration and the arrival of Bill Clinton with the saying, it’s the economy, stupid. Specifically, James Carville’s phrase “The economy, stupid”.
It’s not still the economy. I think we’re to the point where we can safely say it’s “The empathy, stupid” which to me means, the lack thereof.
When will we finally figure this out? Talk to each other instead of watching them talk at us. Gather facts and share them. Know where you’re money goes. Vote and know why you’re doing it. Look at the world around you.
Think about people who live differently than you do on a day-to-day basis – without focusing on who has greener grass – and see how that might feel.
That’s all it’s about. Lack of empathy is a bad thing, it creates insecurity. Having empathy makes us individually and collectively stronger. An individual who feels seen, heard and recognized for who they are will be more confident because of a foundation of understanding and connectedness.
Confidence without empathy can quickly become arrogance. Don’t get caught in the trap of believing whoever is louder because loud is only noisier.
The root of the word is confidence is con for a reason.